What makes life so easy for one person and so hard for another? Why can some do wrong and come out smelling like a rose and others like a skunk?
I heard from Wei's second family in Texas. It is very sad but they have decided not to adopt her. So once again this little girl is without a family. They had their reasons and I do understand very much why... but I don't understand WHY when Jay and I would have taken her, no matter what her problems were that China turned us down.
Then I think, maybe it was a higher hand stopping us from taking on more then we could handle but even so when giving birth you don't get to pick and choose your childs good and bad- yet in adoption you get to view the child like a puppy in the pet store and decided you don't like the patch of brown fur or the way the tail wags and you get to turn the child away.
Wei is a beautiful little girl who is now four. She was born with a medical problem that has been corrected. I haven't seen any of her updates since her surgery in 2007 but I am sure there is a family out there that could open their hearts to this child and give her a family. I want her to have a good life and be loved.
We would have had her home two years ago.. TWO YEARS AGO!.. but she has now had to suffer in an institution for all this extra time.
I am so very heartbroken.
This is the story of Ginnie and Jay from the beginning of our journey to Alexis and on to our trials for a second child. This story also includes our life as parents with our other children.
OUR BOY
5 months old
He's rough and he's tough and he's ours!
Alexis
Referral
Alexis
One Year Later
Our Timeline
09/21/07- Letter of Intent to China for Wei
10/23/07-Applied to CIS for 171-H
11/10/07-Finger Prints
12/05/07-Turned Down from CCAA for Wei
12/20/07-Home Study Completed for Taiwan
12/21/07 -Home Study to Taiwan-Logged in
01/05/07-Home Study to CIS
???? Mailed Almost complete Dossier to ASIA
01/26/08-Approved 171-H
02/25/08-Phone call that CCAA was looking our file over again!!!!
03/25/08- Email From ASIA that CCAA said NO.
5 Months and 3 Weeks since our Home Study was completed for Taiwan
06/08/08- Was contacted that there was a little BOY for adoption
06/10/08-Received photos of OUR CHILD
06/15/08-Was asked to give him a name! PRAISE GOD!
06/16/08-Sent in application for orphanage in Taiwan
10/23/07-Applied to CIS for 171-H
11/10/07-Finger Prints
12/05/07-Turned Down from CCAA for Wei
12/20/07-Home Study Completed for Taiwan
12/21/07 -Home Study to Taiwan-Logged in
01/05/07-Home Study to CIS
???? Mailed Almost complete Dossier to ASIA
01/26/08-Approved 171-H
02/25/08-Phone call that CCAA was looking our file over again!!!!
03/25/08- Email From ASIA that CCAA said NO.
5 Months and 3 Weeks since our Home Study was completed for Taiwan
06/08/08- Was contacted that there was a little BOY for adoption
06/10/08-Received photos of OUR CHILD
06/15/08-Was asked to give him a name! PRAISE GOD!
06/16/08-Sent in application for orphanage in Taiwan
My Favorite Adoption Blogs and Websites
Legacy of an Adopted Child
Once there were two women
Who never knew each other.
One you do not remember,
The other you call mother.
Two different lives shaped to make you one.
One became your guiding star,
The other became your sun.
The first one gave you life
And the second taught you to live it.
The first gave you a need for love,
The second was there to give it.
One gave you a nationality,
The other gave you a name.
One gave you a talent,
The other gave you aim.
One gave you emotions,
The other calmed your fears.
One saw your first sweet smile,
The other dried your tears.
One sought for you a home
That she could not provide,
The other prayed for a child
And her hope was not denied.
And now you ask me through your tears,
The age-old question unanswered
Through the years…
Heredity or environment…
Which are you a product of?
Neither, my darling. Neither.
Just two different kinds of love.
- author unknown
Who never knew each other.
One you do not remember,
The other you call mother.
Two different lives shaped to make you one.
One became your guiding star,
The other became your sun.
The first one gave you life
And the second taught you to live it.
The first gave you a need for love,
The second was there to give it.
One gave you a nationality,
The other gave you a name.
One gave you a talent,
The other gave you aim.
One gave you emotions,
The other calmed your fears.
One saw your first sweet smile,
The other dried your tears.
One sought for you a home
That she could not provide,
The other prayed for a child
And her hope was not denied.
And now you ask me through your tears,
The age-old question unanswered
Through the years…
Heredity or environment…
Which are you a product of?
Neither, my darling. Neither.
Just two different kinds of love.
- author unknown
Life Is Too Short
'Life is too short to wake up in the morning with regrets, so love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who don't, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance, take it. If it changes your life, let it.Nobody said life would be easy, they just promised it would be worth it.' Harvey Mackay
You Know You're An Adoptive Parent When...
1. The fact that there are 143 million children without a parent to kiss them goodnight has made you lose sleep.
2. You realize DNA has nothing to do with love and family.
3. You can't watch Adoption Stories on TLC without sobbing.
4. The fact that, if 7% of Christians adopted 1 child there would be no orphans in the world, is convicting to you.
5. You spend free time surfing blogs about families who have experienced the blessing of adoption.
6. It drives you crazy when people ask you about adopted child's 'real' parents.
7. You have ever been 'pregnant' with your adoptive child longer than it takes an elephant to give birth.(2 years!)
8. You had no idea how you would afford to adopt but stepped out in faith anyway, knowing where God calls you He will provide.
9. You have ever taken an airplane ride half-way around the world with a child you just met.
10. You believe God's heart is for adoption.
11. You realize that welcoming a child into your heart and family is one of the most important legacies you could ever leave on this earth.
12. You know what the word 'Dossier' means, and you can actually pronounce it!
13. You have welcomed a social worker into the most private parts of your life.
14. You shudder when people say your child is so lucky that you adopted them, knowing full well you are the blessed one to have him or her in your life.
-Author unknown
2. You realize DNA has nothing to do with love and family.
3. You can't watch Adoption Stories on TLC without sobbing.
4. The fact that, if 7% of Christians adopted 1 child there would be no orphans in the world, is convicting to you.
5. You spend free time surfing blogs about families who have experienced the blessing of adoption.
6. It drives you crazy when people ask you about adopted child's 'real' parents.
7. You have ever been 'pregnant' with your adoptive child longer than it takes an elephant to give birth.(2 years!)
8. You had no idea how you would afford to adopt but stepped out in faith anyway, knowing where God calls you He will provide.
9. You have ever taken an airplane ride half-way around the world with a child you just met.
10. You believe God's heart is for adoption.
11. You realize that welcoming a child into your heart and family is one of the most important legacies you could ever leave on this earth.
12. You know what the word 'Dossier' means, and you can actually pronounce it!
13. You have welcomed a social worker into the most private parts of your life.
14. You shudder when people say your child is so lucky that you adopted them, knowing full well you are the blessed one to have him or her in your life.
-Author unknown
2 comments:
So sorry for little Wei.
Wishing peace to you and the family.
that is heartbreaking.. my prayers goes out to her and your family
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